Guide to Elite Conversational Skills

1. Have good energy and have good control over your emotions. Be positive and feel good and confident about yourself. This is the core ability. While other people are feeling unsure of themselves and looking for someone to lean on, you will be the addictive anchor of confidence and good feelings.

2. Smile and crack jokes. Again, most people are severely lacking in confidence and self esteem. They are afraid you might be judging them negatively or that the conversation might take a bad turn, so by doing this you are disarming them and reminding them to just chill out.

3. Ask Questions. First just ask some general questions like where are they from. Just keep coaxing them to say a little bit more, and eventually they'll reveal some topics that they are really interested in talking about. You'll be able to tell these from their body language. Once that happens, ask them more questions about those topics, and they'll do all the talking in the conversation.

4. Be genuinely and powerfully interested in them, what they've been up to and what they've got going on in their life. The real power lies, in hearing what they have to say, not because they will give you some valuable information (though that is a possibility), but because that is the true key to their hearts.