Fun Night Out

Picture this.

A 26 year old man, not shaved for 3 days. Wearing normal blue jeans and a black T-shirt and sneakers, goes out to a bar by himself. He gets to the crowded bar and just stands there by himself drinking a beer, everyone else is there with groups of people. His hair looks like he just got out of bed, and he looks like a mess.

That was me last night.

I was thinking of not even going out, but I figure just 1 drink.

I go to the bar and get a beer. The first thing that happens is the bartender gives me this huge elaborate glass, while everyone else is drinking small plastic cups, and he tells me I'm a VIP. (I have never even seen this guy before). So I'm like "cool thanks". Then a few minutes later some chick comes and approaches me. She starts talking about how she's armenian and eastern european and all this stuff, and I'm just trying to follow Brent's directions and say as little about myself as possible, I think I did a pretty good job. So a couple minutes later she says "Can I get your phone #?, I hope I'm not being too forward". So I gave her the number. A few seconds later I finish my drink while another hot girl is rubbing against me from behind when there's plenty of room and I say "well I'm heading out" And she goes on about how she's going to call me, I tell her to just send me a text. 

The wierd thing is though that I had more success just by standing there for 5 minutes than every other guy there who were all dressed in trendy clothes, had good, neat haircuts, were actually there with friends and girls and had social proof...

Energy is the most important thing!

A Cool Vibe

Energy is the secret to charisma! Well first it probably starts with self image. Believing in your core that you have charisma and that you are a cool and charming person. Also attitude is important, having that wild untamed outlook on life. So it does involve more than just energy, but to me energy is the secret unseen X factor. Its the cool vibe, possessed by people like the Sean Connery James Bond. Because the problem is you can have the attitude, and the self image but still not be likeable, so this is the like the final touch on having charisma. Its what real zen masters have. Its that Strong, powerful, subtle calming essence that emanates from these certain people as they speak, or go about their lives. It's an Unshakeableness, a state of being totally Unphaseable. Being absent of the glitches in consciousness, and anxiety attacks that govern most people's lives. Its a positivity, and sense of carefree indifference. Calmness, nonthreatening friendliness, or just an obviously authentic honesty as to ones true inner state of being. Composure, keeping cool, not making a big deal out of anything. Not getting over excited. No exaggerated reactions. The ability to let go of or walk away from anything. Being a good listener. A rare sense of peace. Being comfortable in one's own skin. Staying detached. Having good positive energy, and BEING that way so that it is maintained. 

That is the secret key to charisma. 

You Know you're a Blackhearted Rogue if:

You spend your time trying to think of things to do other than robbing liquor stores and beating up little old ladies.

You've woken up with an awful hangover... in jail.

A nice dinner is a bottle of wine. 

You are ONLY capable of a physical relationship.

You have no furniture in your apartment room except your bed. 

You never date or make phone calls. 

You were born on the 13th. 

Taking it slow is waiting more than 15 minutes to have sex.

You grew up roaming the city streets and back alleyways. 

You will NEVER get married. 

Nothing but trouble on your mind.

Best Dream Ever

Had an amazing dream I had a threesome with 2 lovely Russian women last night. One of them got naked and I pounced on her. I will keep this one in mind. 

ULTIMATE POWER

The ultimate situation life is to have NO FEAR OF ANYTHING. I don't care about being homeless, NEVER having sex, Having no friends, no Job, being shunned by your whole family. THIS IS THE EXTREME. It's a theory that can only be proven by risking your entire life! To give up all anxiety about everything, even death itself. Yes, I have gone off the deep end here. But to me its worth it just for the very good possibility, of truth. 

Best Rock Singers of all time.

Lou Gramm. 

Paul Shortino.

Michael Bolton (when he did metal)

Steve Tyler

Robert Plant (the original)

Bryan Adams

The guy from Journey.

A couple things. First most will say the Bolton thing is blasphemy, but anyone who's heard it knows what I'm talking about. I'm not afraid to speak the truth, his early stuff is incredible. On another note, for Bolton switching to the wussy music ended up being a great career move for him, but the disturbing part is I'm pretty sure he really is like his music sounds. I don't think its just an act...

Second it might seem that too many of these guys are coming from the "light rock" ballads genre or whatever. Well that just happens to be where the best singers are, again, I'm just calling it like it is. As much as I like motley crue and bands like that. As singers, they don't compare anywhere close to the bands listed above. 

Social Prisoner's Dillemma

When 2 people find themselves in a social situation, usually what happens is they never meet. Each one is afraid to make the first move socially because of any number of several different possible reasons. For one thing they might be too proud. They might look at the situation and think "I am the cooler person here with higher value (whatever that means to them). That other person should be the one wanting to hang out with me, therefore I'll just let them be the one to break the ice."

Now in this case the other person is either thinking the same thing, or they're too intimidated because they think they have lower social value and would not be well received. Or maybe both people are just scared of being embarrassed and rejected.

The point is, making the first move socially doesn't have to signify anything other than "I am a social person, with no fear of meeting new people, and I have limited time so I will just bust in and get right to it! I also understand that most people are scared to do this, therefore I will be the one to take charge and get the party started."

So all in all the person who who approaches and is the one to start the conversation is NOT signifying they have lesser value, nor does it have to mean they are needy and want something. Instead its about actually being friendly and social in a social setting and not wanting to waste time.